1. "You poor thing" - cancer patients are not looking for pity, compassion is welcome.

2. "Let me know if there is anything I can do to help" - most times there is something but we do not know how to ask.  Instead offer a suggestion, I am stopping by the video store, can I bring you something.

3. "My aunt died of breast cancer" - or any relative with any form of cancer.  Offer a story of hope not of death.

4. "At least they caught it early" - you minimize the situation.

Instead try saying something like

     I'm here for you, you are in my thoughts, or I love you.

It is not fair being crippled with a disease in what should be the highlight of my life.  I do not smoke and do not have a smoking related cancer.  My family has no history of cancer.  This is just a quick note to those of you that find yourselves tongue tied.  Please take a moment to read my other guides and reviews.  If they were at all helpful can you please check the helpful box below.  It is one of the small pleasure I can still enjoy while being hospitalized.