Roamnce 101: A Lady's Guide To Lighting His Fire

When you want to say more than, "I love you."

On Valentine’s Day, your anniversary or any other special occasion, it’s easy to say I love you. There are millions of greeting cards to express that sentiment as well as gifts galore to tell him he’s special. But when you want to let him know he still gets your motor running, there are limited options on a store’s shelves. Here are some free and low cost ways to let him know he’s still the hottest man alive.

Write him a steamy love letter

Grab your stationary or sit down at your computer keyboard and create your own blazing hot story. Don’t hold anything back! Let your man know how he makes you feel, but leave out words like "soul", "heart" and "feelings". Instead, use words like "skin", "tingle" and "tongue". After placing your love letter in an envelope, spritz it with a bit of your perfume and seal it with a kiss in your sexiest red lipstick. Slip it into his briefcase, coat pocket or lunch bag; or address it and mail it to him at work.

Have a day of foreplay

Put a provocative spin on sticky notes by leaving him notes that get saucier as he finds them. Start with "You are so sexy!" on the bathroom mirror and "I love your rock hard abs!" on the coffee pot. Don’t forget to let him know he has incredible skills by giving him a lunch time note that says something like, "I love it when you (insert action) me." End the day with a note or telephone call telling him what you want to do to him when he gets home. This will keep his mind and imagination reeling all day.

Welcome him home

Have a friend or neighbor watch the kids for a couple of hours and greet him in a way he’ll never forget! Welcome him home wearing nothing but a big, red bow. Rob your daughter’s dress-up box for some long beads or a boa to pair with your highest heels or boots. Fulfill his fantasy by answering the door as a stern but sexy librarian, a cheerleader or a school girl. No matter how tiring of a day he’s had, he’ll soon forget all about it.

Put on a private show

Pull out all of your lingerie one evening and ask him to chose his favorites, then you chose the things that make you feel sexiest. Hand write a special invitation for him to attend the hottest show in town and include a date and time. The evening of the event, after the kids are tucked into bed for the night, seat him with his favorite drink and a digital or Polaroid camera. Have a drink yourself to loosen up (if necessary), put on your favorite music and let the show begin! Have fun, be naughty and dance around but don’t allow any touching until the show is finished.

Make a video

Are you a gutsy gal and really want to blow his mind? Grab your video camera and tripod or borrow one from a friend or the public library. Dress for seduction in your nicest lingerie and stilettos. Do your hair and make up as if you’re going out on a date with him and let the camera roll. Do a strip tease to his favorite heavy metal song or the dance tune that makes you feel most alive. Since every movie needs a dramatic, mind-gripping climax, add a little self pleasure to his special video. Whether real or staged, this move alone will set his libido on fire. Have the video player moved into the bedroom in advance so he can view your Oscar winning performance right away. Present his gift beautifully wrapped with a note telling him it’s for his eyes only.

Whether you say it with words, an x-rated love letter or a personalized video, letting him know how much he still turns you on can refresh and renew your intimate relationship. But don’t wait for a special occasion to do something sizzling hot for him, do it today and repeat often!