People need encouragement on Ebay as I do but I also realize that on a regular basis, we get taken advantage.  People who charge twenty dollars for shipping and handling and then on the box it only cost them 4.90 to send them to us and that was when it finally did arrive.  Our expeiriences are stress full.

 Sometimes people can be very difficult on Ebay.  They overcharge they don't send your package on time and they can literaly make you want to pull your hair out!  For these people, for your blood pressure and for your peace, it's not worth it to abandon Ebay, there are plenty of Good Ebayers out there.  Hopefully you'll eventually get your item and if you don't, I'm sorry.  Don't let it ruin your experience.  Out of the hundreds of experiences I've had I've only had a couple of clunkers. 

Always check their feedback amounts.  Read their feedbacks in detail!  View their items.  See how long its been since their last sale or purchase.  See if they've had withdrawns. 

Take a breathe and go through the proper channels to retrieve your stuff or money first.  I had an item delievered to the wrong address, abandoned house and and ind didn't arrive for two weeks.  Give people the benefit of the doubt, first.  After that yes, go through the steps and report them and unfortunately grief the loss of your win, but hopefully look for another item just like the one you didn't get with someone reputable!  Someone who doesn't want their feedback ruined!