Let me start by saying my X-husband and I have joint custody and at first I didn't think it was a good thing at all. I felt like my son would be confused going back and forth all the time. I was wrong!

Joint custody works for us because my X and I communicate almost every day about our son. We have no hard feelings towards each other. We are both happier now than we ever were married to each other.

Our son likes the fact that he gets to see both parents nearly everyday because he comes here after school until his dad gets off work on the days he is at his dad's.

What I am trying to say is Joint Custody will only work if you are willing to do the following:

1 Communicate with your X almost every day in a civil manor

2 Be flexible with your schedule

3 Communicate with your child and make sure they are comfortable with the way things are being handled

4 Remember they are only children for a very short time share them with your X they are his or her children too.

Our arrangement is 3 days with me 2 days with his dad 2 days with me then 3 days with his dad and on and on. This varies when one of us has an event that we want to take our son to or that he can't go to. Be flexible!!!!

This is just what has worked for us for nearly 3 years now and it will not work for a lot of people but it can be done if everyone behaves like adults well... except the kids they get to behave like kids LOL!

Janet