This Diva article is being written with a touch of humor for  those of us who don't have a barbie doll figure. Looking like a Diva is not about imitating the runway models or the air brushed models in magazines. It is about expressing who we are and   being confident and comfortable with our choices. Lets face it, going shopping can be a nightmare when we don't have the perfect body. HELLLO!!! No one does unless they believe they do & honey we do!!! We all do. So how do we strut with style when we'd have to shimmy for days to get into some of those outfits and some of the larger fashions make us feel like our grandma. We won't begin yet to touch on some of those ugggh colors that make us look like we didnt sleep for days.

Both of the photos show a size 3X.  Its easy to see which would make you FEEL like a Diva.  The trick is to find the right size for you so that not only will you LOOK like a Diva wearing it but it feels comfortable.

So where to start. Girls!! as tough as this is.... it has to be done. We have to be brave, shivers, and turn the bright lights on, stand in front of the mirror, nude, with our eyes OPEN. I know its a scary thought but you'll thank Me for this later. Truly!!! Take a look at your hair, if you're bald or dont have nice hair, get a wig. My mom has to wear wigs and she looks lovely. Do you need a new wig, a hair cut, a new style, a new color. Change can be fun.

 Take a look at your eyes, notice the color and then when you are trying on clothes, notice that some colors make your eyes look gorgeous shades deeper or faded, give your skin tone a warm shade or make you look washed you out. Smile, see how much nicer it makes you look and batt those eye lashes, see it makes you laugh.

Now lets look at your neck if its too long,  don't wear really low tops it will make it seem longer. If its short, you need tops that make it look longer so invest in a little low cut number that shows off your cleavage. If you don't have cleavage, invest in some instant. Its fun!!! See how perky you are. Are you breasts at the right height , resting on your tummy or dangling on your knees. YaY for you if at right height, invest in a good bra if they are on your tummy and if they are on your knees, buy some suspenders, you know the ones I mean, Jed wore them on the Beverly Hillbillies.  Once the breasts go up where they belong, you will notice that you will automatically feel slimmer and your waist magically appears.  Surprisingly you will also stand straighter.

Back to the Mirror again.. is your waist curvy or do you come straight down..if its curvy, you are going to invest in outfits or accessories that draw attention to that. If its straight, wear a shorter skirt or low cut top so the eye is draw to your legs, or cleavage. The key is to highlight the things you like and draw attention away from the things you don't like. There are accessories you can buy that will draw your top or dress in nicely at the back creating a more curvy look. I have a few of them and they do wonders. Another easy trick is to keep those shoulders back, you will look taller, perkier and slimmer however if you snap your shoulders back and you're one of those with your breasts on your knees, those suspenders could snap back and that would be a big owwie!! Now lets look at our hips and the amount of junk in the trunk. Do we have enough, too much or is that our perfect area and all we have to do is get a nice pair of jeans that gets eyes glued to our ASSets.

Now on to our legs, are we too top heavy but slender at the bottom, if so, the sexiest choice is a longer skirt with buttons all the way down or a long slit so we can allow flashes of sexy stocking covered legs but not all attention drawn to an area we arent happy with. If the tops of the legs are the way you like them... then find a flirty lil skirt that shows them off.

Now look down at your feet, are your toes all polished and pretty, a lil toe ring on? That one step makes you feel so nice and you can only go UP from there *s*

ok the hard part is over. Its time to go to the mall. Leave your money and credit cards at home. This is not the time to impulse buy. Take a notebook and buy yourself a long cool girly girl drink and watch the people walking by. Look at the sizes, shapes and the different styles and color combinations, lengths, hair styles, accessories. Make notes of color combinations & styles that you feel looks attractive,   sexy and feminine. Be particularly conscious of girls in your size and shape, notice what makes them look good or bad. At first it wont be as easy to see. In time it will become second nature. You will see something and think "oh that would be perfect on Me' Don't just look at the skirt or top, note the accessories, earrings, necklaces, bracelets, shoes, purses... sunglasses, its the whole package. Seriously you can look at some people and know that they are wearing granny panties and you would bet money that others are wearing sexyyyyyyyy panties. You can tell by how they move, the attention to details. Do that several times until you feel you have a sense of what will look good on you.

Now to figure what size you will need. You will need to measure under your arms and a bit below your breasts (grown or bought) for band measurement but over the breasts to get the chest size you need your top to fit. Measure your waist & hips and if you wish to wear pants, your inseam. This is always more fun if a friend or partner does it for you.

So you are ready to shop Diva style. Its a must to have sexy foundations, bras, panties and stockings that feel sensual on your skin, fit perfectly and make you feel sexy!! IT will show in your walk. If your tummy protrudes a bit too much invest in control top hose, a corset or girdle or all of the above. Pick a skirt that is the length you have decided is best for your body time and then a top style. If you are unsure about whether the items match ask the Ebay seller, most are very helpful and ask if they have accessories too. IF you dont like what they offer, dont buy it. Its better to wait a bit longer than buy things just because its there or a good price.

Attention to the little details is one of the the things that makes the Divas stand out from the rest. Coordinate your outfits, add matching accessories, costume jewelry, scarves, belts, matching hose and shoes. Once you know you look GOOD you will FEEL good and that is where the real Diva shows. ATTITUDE - you have it and you know it. You go girl!!!

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