Change your life with a positive statement of intent: like magic you perform FOR yourself BY yourself!

We create our own lives.  We create our lives through our thoughts, words, and actions.  All of these have both positive and negative consequences.  If you call your boss “a filthy liar” that will probably have a NEGATIVE consequence.   Everyone understands that.  

But what if you call yourself a loser?  What is the consequence?  

Many of us spend our days with a harsh internal critic.  From the moment you wake up (Sheesh, look at the bags under your eyes.  You’re really showing your age)  to the time we fall asleep at night (Why did I stay up and watch the news?  Now I’ll be tired for my meeting.  I’m such an idiot), we relentlessly repeat the meanest of criticisms.  Day in and day out.  What sort of consequences does this have for us?  

We’re so used to it we don’t even think about it.  But what if instead of an internal critic, you had an internal supporter. When you made a mistake, you heard, “Well, there’s always tomorrow.  You can fix it, you’ve done it before!” or  “You are honest about the mistake and everyone appreciated that—you’re a good person.”

We have a name for such a person: a wild-eyed optimist.  ;)

 But scientific research has shown us that optimism isn’t wild-eyed.  That optimistic people do better in their careers, are happier, healthier and live longer.  Maybe that self-talk does have some important consequences!

Affirmations are designed to help you combat the internal critic.  I am a firm believer in affirmations—they are a deceptively simple tool that can nonetheless have an important effect directly on you—your happiness, your health, and your circumstances.  

 How can an affirmation help your circumstances?  

Well, science has established pretty clearly that mind and body are linked.   And that most of us don’t even use all our available brainpower.  An affirmation strikes right to the core of your mind, down deep where you may still think that you’re the kid who got picked last for the volleyball team.

Once you change that, once you THINK you’re a winner, you ACT like a winner.  You BECOME a winner…and an optimist.  And that helps transform your life—from your salary to your health to your relationship with your loved one.   

An affirmation is a positive statement in the present tense.  

It’s not “I want” or “I wish”…but instead: “I am!”   It’s not like a prayer either, in that a prayer is a request.  An affirmation is you stating to the Divine that you WILL be this way.  You are taking control of your life, using the free will gifted you, to improve your life.  What could be better?  It’s like a prayer in action.     

You should say your affirmation at least twice a day.  Set aside a small block of time where you can say the words thoughtfully, really impressing them upon your heart and mind.  I provide my clients with a helpful image to reinforce the statement, so focus on that.   

Lastly, consider the rest of the day.  It’s more difficult for an affirmation to have an effect if we bombard ourselves with negativity all day long except for the five minutes we spend on the affirmations.  Try listening to yourself throughout the day, and noticing how negative or critical you are.  You’ll probably be surprised!  Then the next day, when you notice yourself making a mean internal comment, stop and instead say something positive.  Something simple and easy to remember.  

Instead of “I’m a loser,”  “I’m a good person.”  “I work hard.”   “It’s not a big deal.”   “It’ll work out all right in the end.”  “Every cloud has a silver lining.”  

Then twice a day, say a longer, focused affirmation aimed at your finances or your lovelife, or whatever is causing difficulties.  I design and create personalized affirmations free with my readings to pinpoint my client’s current problem and overcome it.  

Some clients find it almost impossible to use a standard affirmation.  

For example, I write: “I am passionate and loving, and my personal relationships are rejuvenated and filled with positive loving energy,” for a client who is feeling generally down and bored with her marriage.  She doesn’t want a divorce, she just wants a little of the spark back.  

But when she says it, she hears her internal critic say things like, “Sure you are.  How stupid.  This is ridiculous, it’ll never work.”  She can’t quite summon up the energy to really believe and just ends up feeling dumb.  

She needs some distance between her and that internal critic!  She should change her affirmation to:  “Janet is passionate and loving, and her personal relationships are rejuvenated and filled with positive loving energy.”  Often this helps short-circuit that inner meanie.  After all, it’s not Janet talking, but someone else talking about Janet, and we’re taught to listen to what others say, right?  ;)   

After a couple of weeks of that affirmation, she should change it again to: “You, Janet, are passionate and loving, and your personal relationships are rejuvenated and filled with positive loving energy.”  This is like a command directly from the Divine to Janet!  Of course she has to listen and pay attention!  From a very early age, we’re accustomed to listen to commands from others, so that this will really quiet down the internal meanie.  

And then finally, after a couple of more weeks, Janet can start using the standard affirmation.  Generally, people find that now the internal gripes are much fewer and farther between.  You’ve gently conditioned that inner pessimist to be quiet and listen and to really accept the good things said about Janet.  

Thank you for reading my guide!

Buy one of my readings and get a personalized affirmation, designed especially for you, FREE!  In the United States, I will mail your affirmation printed on nice parchment paper.   You can frame it, or just use it for visualization.  And see the power of positive energy and love in your life!